My Top 25 Favourite Movies part 1

By now I have watched quite a lot of different movies (especially during finals weeks) and I am a fan of more subtle and philosophical ones. This is my top 25 movies that I have watched and that made an impact on my life.

25.Melancholia

A great movie from Lars Von Trier. The first time I tried to watch it, I just couldn’t – the movie is really slow and it is quite hard to break from all the stress and rush in my daily life. I just couldn’t bare the calmness of this movie. However, I watched it a few months later with a different state of mind and I loved it. The movie is filled with fear but I have never seen fear to be depicted so gracefully.

24.A Beautiful Mind

I have seen this movie quite a lot of time ago but I still remember the beuty of it. A really touching movie about a genius going a little bit mad and fighting it. Makes you think how much can you trust your own thoughts.

23. Devdas

Well, what can I say. If you plan to watch one Bollywood movie – choose Devdas. It is one of the best new Bollywood movies in my opinion. Songs, dances – they are made just perfectly. It is one of those movies where it begins  by being just too sweet. I am not a fan of all the “happy ending” romance movies. But believe me, it’s not a happy ending at all. Suddenly it becomes really dramatic and tragic. Something classic I would say. And I actually cried at the end so probably quite engaging. Bollywood movies are not for everyone – if you don’t like the dances and songs – don’t watch it.

22.The Gold Rush

Classics. It was hard to choose between “The Golden Rush” and “The Modern Times” by Charlie Chaplin. Silent movies are definitely underrated nowadays. It’s quite nice to not have to listen to all the sound effects for once.

21.Womb

A very confusing movie about not being able to let someone go and how the modern days might affect that. It is an uncomfortable movie, I can say that. However it is still and interesting idea and a very sensual way of presenting it.

20.Another Earth

Don’t get it wrong, this is not another alien life movie. It has a whole different perspective. A parallel universe maybe? A philosophical idea of having another Earth, an Earth that is the same as the one we are on with all the people and history. But it is also a story about a bright young girl who accidentally killed two people and can’t forgive herself.

19.I am Dina

This movie is made by a story written by Herbjorg Wassmo – “Dina’s Book”. I really enjoyed the book and the movie did not disappoint me as well. Maybe because it created the character of Dina in a similar way I imagined her. The story is about Dina who lost her mother early in life and everyone knew that the mother died because of her. Growing up with a guilty conscience and an unloving father made her different. And a strong character as well.

18.Monty Python and The Holy Grail

Let’s have something more cheerful now. Monty Python are pure comedy brilliance. And the witch scene is one of my favourites.
A good classical British comedy. This one I am sure – a must watch.

17.Life Is Beautiful

I am not a fan of war and historical movies but this one is just breath taking. Making a movie taking place in the concentration camps during the World War II so sincere and positive – almost impossible.

16.The Big Lebowski

I don’t know what makes this movie so amazing. Maybe it’s just the work of the Coen brothers – the movie is simple, easy to watch and at the same time different. I really don’t have what to add – an awesome movie with really great characters. Not superheroes, not even heroes. Just everyday normal characters.

15.Pan’s Labyrinth

A really great movie, gripping and strong. And I have to add – the Pan’s Lullaby is just perfectly designed soundtrack for this movie. Gives me the chills every time I listen to it. And all the creatures that the girl encounters, all the quests she has to do to save her mother. What can I child do when she can’t fight?

The rest I will post in another post next time. Hope you will find something new and worth watching here. It was hard selecting only 25 movies, I really feel I left out so many great ones.

Cheers,

Copper

Duality – Tom French’s Blog

Just stumbled upon Tom French’s Blog – such expressive, dark and so alive. Catching the deepest parts of humanity. For those who live in Miami, you can find some of his paintings from the Duality series in SCOPE Art Fair December 3 – 8.
I feel inspired 🙂

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Did I mention that the ‘Duality’ exhibition opens this evening?

Heres a few more little tasters of how the paintings shaped up –

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There’ll be a selection of hand pulled screen prints available, these individually finished ‘Dualism’ editions (shown below) have come out even stronger than anticipated. You can find one of these up for grabs over on my facebook page here.

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And to top it all off, these limited packs of postcard sized prints will be given away with all items from this series, until they’re all gone –

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Psychology of a Long Distance Relationship

Now when it’s easier to travel than ever a lot of people encounter the issue of a long distance relationship and speaking frankly – many of them fail. It is very hard to keep up with another person when you don’t see him on a daily basis, when you both have different circles of friends, different activities. Drifting apart gets really easy. These are the points that are important in keeping your relationship alive even in a long distance.

1. MATURITY

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yes, capital letters. Both partners have to be mature enough to understand the value of their relationship and to understand what will be the expenses. Especially if you are meeting a lot of new people in your new place, there is a great chance that you will meet another person who you will find attractive. Or a bunch of people you will find attractive. And it seems ok for a while, but what will you do if they start showing you attention? It is a matter of choice – long distance relationship means committing to each other. If you feel that’s too early for you than… maybe it is?

2. Knowing that the distance is temporary

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If you have plans that you will live in the same city or even together after the long distance thing, that’s great! Knowing that you are not waiting in vain helps. Of course it depends on how long will you have to wait – 6 months? A year? Two? Four? Everyone has a limit of their own. Commit to a long distance relationship for a year or two might be too much for some. It’s definitely a long period of time. If you are struggling, the best option is to talk to your partner – it won’t be easy but you both need to know that you are both committed but if it starts to feel like a sinking ship you can still abandon it. It might be painful but it will makes things easier later. Being in pain and acting that everything is ok won’t save your relationship.

3. Trust

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This one is probably the hardest one. When the trust is strong everything will be fine. However, when you don’t see your significant other, don’t know who is he hanging out with and what is he doing it is very likely you will get jealous. Yes, you have to prepare for that because at some point you will get jealous. Maybe someone will post a picture where your boyfriend is in a club dancing with another girl or your girlfriend hugging a guy you never heard of. And probably it’s nothing big but it will annoy you. My suggestion – don’t keep it. It is better to ask but also be cautious – don’t make a scene out of it. If you manage to ask nicely making it sound playful not angry then probably your partner will even enjoy it – he will know you care. Just don’t overdo it! Blame and guilt won’t make anyone feel better and it will make you drift apart.

Some couples make agreements that they can still go on dates and even have one night stands but this is a risky business. Even if both agree to do this probably one of them doesn’t want it as much as the other. I’m not saying that this is impossible but it might just build up a big baggage of trust issues, jealousy and even blame. If you decide to do this, make some strict rules not only about how far can you go and how often can you go out with the same person but also how much will you talk about it. Remember, avoid any comparisons, don’t go into details and don’t talk too much about it. That’s the easiest way to avoid an argument. However, don’t lie, if you went on a date don’t hide it. Moreover, never miss a “web-chat” evening with your partner for a date. There’s a very big possibility that it will end in an argument. So, make arrangements with your boyfriend/girlfriend beforehand.

4. Visiting

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If you can visit, do so as often as you can. It is the best way to keep your relationship strong. However, if you can’t do that often be prepared when you come to visit that it might be a little bit uncomfortable at first. You might not find a lot of things to talk about, you might feel different to each other, thoughts that you’ve changed might become overwhelming. How to prepare for this? Plan some activities that you both enjoy doing. It’s a good way to remember the things that you have in common and to make everything feel a bit more natural.

5. Similar activities and interests

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Studying a similar subject, reading the same books, watching the same movies or working in a similar field might help to keep some topics that you can speak about when you don’t have any more questions as “how do you do?”, “what is the weather there?”, “what did you eat today?” and “how is your dog doing?”. You have to find something that will suit you both. If you are both a little bit into games – try regularly playing a multi-player online role-playing game together. If you both like watching let’s say “How I Met Your Mother” do that “together” – at the same time and then you can talk about it after. Anything you can think of will work. Only thing that matters is the idea that you are doing something together.

6. …And the sexual topic
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It’s hard talking about it but this might be an issue. A long distance relationship is an opportunity to shape all the skills for writing dirty messages, having “phone sex” or even doing things in front of the webcam. You just have to make sure you are comfortable with it and that you both want it. It might feel really uncomfortable especially if you are not used to flirting and seducing. Or you find yourself tortured when trying to say or even write something dirty. You can try and some will find it really pleasuring. However, if you are really conservative or shy, don’t push it. And if your partner is pushing you into doing more than you feel comfortable, stop him. You want to make this pleasuring for both of you. Maybe you can make a compromise, making you go out of your comfort zone a little bit but not too much.

Be cautious with erotic pictures or videos of you/your partner – you really don’t want other people to see that. My suggestion – don’t keep those in your phone. Remember that many friends like to scroll through your pictures when you show them something…
For college students: don’t leave them in the most obvious places on your computer as well. Create a folder in a folder in a folder and don’t name it with the name of your partner or any words like “erotic” or “nude”. Especially if you have noisy friends who like to post stupid messages on your facebook when you are out of the room. It is easy to make a search for “Angelica nude” on your computer.

These are the most important points in my opinion. Of course, it will differ from couple to couple. It will be easier if you enjoy having long talks with each other and it will be harder if you are more of a silent type couple. A long distance relationship will require a lot of energy and devotion. However for some it is a way to get to know each other better because you will have to talk about things and you might notice some character traits you haven’t noticed before. So, use this time. Exchange stories of your childhood, your dreams of the future. Don’t focus on the negative how hard it is on you. It will be hard on both of you if even one of you feels that this relationship is just a burden.

Stay positive and strong 🙂

Copper

Does anyone actually need art?

Internet is full of art – pictures, paintings, sculptures, buildings, monuments, movies, songs, symphonies, poems, literature, interpretive dance numbers, animations and so on, and so forth. As an amateur painter I feel overwhelmed – does anyone really need more paintings? Is there still not enough? How can I even know that I’m not doing something that was already made? All these thoughts have left me on a dry period for painting – do my paintings actually matter?

Well, I can always try to make myself feel better and say that yes, it matters to my parents and maybe some friends. And yes, it matters to me, I know that even if I agonize about this, I will still go back to painting sooner or later because for me it is a way of expression. But how to make it matter to others?

It is harder to understand what is art and what is not. Actually, it’s a very complicated question. The meaning of the word ‘art’ became so broad that it is hard to narrow it down. Can you say that something is art and something isn’t? Probably – no. But there’s art with different purpose. I will be talking about the art that is meant to make you think about life and about you values. I am talking about the symbolic art that is always more than it looks.

I am a big fan of such artists as Zdzislaw Beksinski, Salvador Dali, Mikalojus Konstantinas Ciurlionis, Margo Selski, Andrea Kowch, Victor Safonkin and many others. All of these people inspire me to think deeper. Art in the past was very important because many people didn’t know how to read, were not educated. So art became a message that everyone could read. It wasn’t something straight forward. Maybe it was more like a feeling, something subconscious. Churches were built to look strong, powerful, closer to the skies so that people would feel safe inside it and closer to God. And this is only a very primitive example.

I have been listening to online talks/lectures about meaningful art and I was amazed by all of the ideas proposed there. One of then was about the Egyptian Pyramids. A square is a symbol of matter and a triangle is a symbol of spirituality. If you look at the pyramids from above (as it was built for the gods to see) they look as squares that are divided into triangles – matter and spirituality combined. Art was very close to religion and I’m not speaking just of Christianity, I am talking about human beliefs, mythology and even folk tales. A hidden meaning can be found there even without using the squares and triangles. There are certain numbers that have a deeper meaning than just a count of apples. 3 is the number of spirituality (in Christianity – the trinity of God), 4 is the number of matter (in Christianity – 4 evangelists). 7 is a 3+4 meaning the overlapping of spirit and matter (for example there are tales that tying 7 knots on a rope and burying it into the ground will stop your loved one’s soul from leaving the earth), 12 is 3×4 also a mixture of spirituality and matter (12 disciples of Christ, 12 months in a year).

A circle is also a very powerful figure showing the natural order of life, where beginning or ending is not important. It’s a cycle meaning that this how it was before you, this is how it is now and this is how it will be.

So this is some basic figures. Simple, but strong. It is amazing how people could feel it, feel the hard “math” like Fibonacci sequences and the Golden ratio, fractals when it takes us so long to learn it because no one is teaching us how to understand it anymore. It seems that we created an alternate way to understand our surroundings but forgetting that we are a part of it. And the “math” is everywhere. I even read an article that the golden ratio can be found in the uterus of a women in her most fertile years! (article can be found here)

And let’s not forget the symbols of male and female. Sky is considered to be the male and earth is the female. Rain helps the earth to grow life so rain is the act of fertilization. In Greek mythology, the first gods were Gaia and Uranus. Uranus was uncontrollable and he was sexually abusing Gaia whenever he wanted – a total wild male archetype. When Gaia grew tired of Uranus she asked her son Cronus (god of time!) to tame Uranus and when Uranus attacked Gaia again, Cronus cut off Uranus’ genitals and threw them to the sea. As this happened Aphrodite was born – the goddess of love. This shows that love cannot exist without control. This is the same symbol as pillars – holding the sky from falling on the earth and causing chaos.

So, now I’m standing here as a small insignificant person and thinking – how much can I understand? How much can I take from this? These are only few of the major symbols, but they can be used as a basis for other symbols to be built upon. And how can we understand it when we can’t stay even a few minutes without browsing on a smart phone?

There was an idea that being bored is necessary for people to get themselves thinking, creating ideas. But now we are stimulated all the time with TV, smart phones, internet. Now we cannot stand the presence of ourselves for too long and we can’t be bothered to think about our lives, to search for meaning. We’d rather “google” it than try to search for it in ourselves.

So the question is, does it matter, all the hidden meanings and all the spirituality when we get everything that is chewed up for us already?..Try to think about this amazing painting for instance, try to feel.

Another great work of Zdzislaw Beksinski

Tired but happy in my lonely confinement that starts to feel like freedom,
Copper